Ever get the feeling...

[annie]

I have a Dom friend, one of the first I met when exploring this portion of my life, who is really sweet and I have known him for years. He was one of the first to help me discover this part of my nature and to fully understand and bring it out, although our relationship could never be defined as anything more then friendship.

Over the years, due to several personal reasons on both ends, we have drifted apart. We still talk and such but not as often, etc. Since that he has moved on to several more submissives and, in my view, it seems as though he has stayed where he was as far as his growth as a Dom and i have "out grown" him in a way in my submission...

Now, the first question I have (which I am fairly certain I have the answer to), is this possible? For a sub to outgrow the Dominate?

The second question would be... if this were to happen in a full relationship are there other solutions past separating and looking for other partners?

Just got me thinking so i thought i would ask...

Thanks!
annie

[Rhabbi]

annie,

Of course it is possible for a sub to outgrow a Dominate. Just as it is possible for a student to surpass a teacher.

As for what to do if this happened in a full relationship, communication always helps. Getting the Dominate to see the need to learn is going to be a challenge, but should not be impossible. If the relationship is a good one, this growth will occur naturally and together. Maybe the reason this person has gone through so many subs is that he feels no need to grow, and thus never really can be in a relationship. Growth and learning are part of life.

[Sir_Russell]

It certainly can happen and does. Sometimes though the sub feels she has grown because she can see her growth in the areas she grew in but sometimes the Dom is growing in other way that the sub fails to comprehend.

A relationship can work but it will add strain on both to make it work. I am an old dog Dom and I am still learning daily but some like the feel of comfort that doing the same things over bring. The Dom should want to grow for the sub, to surprise her and have her a little off balance.