Favorite aspect of BDSM

[Tang]

For me domination comes top, partly as I feel the other aspects can come out of that.

[Duetta]

Though I would love to say bondage or Dominance/Submission because I very much enjoy these two aspects, I have to admit that the fastest way to get me completely wet and dripping is through humiliation... This is for me the most delicious part though I would hate to discard the other options..

duetta

[Sailor861]

Too easy: looking after my sub's online needs, to the best of my ability, is without a doubt the most rewarding activity (read responsibility) I have had in a long, long while. Her acknowledgment of her safety, contentment and general well being are the most tangible rewards I can hope to get from this online relationship.

[Caine]

For me it's all about the D/s. I enjoy getting inside of her and finding out what makes her tick. I enjoy getting to those places that she has kept secret, sometimes even from herself. It is so gratifying to see the realization in her eyes of something she wasn't quite aware of. Don't get me wrong though, I will readily and happily use all of the other things on the list to achieve my purposes.

[minx]

I voted for 'Bondage' - I especially love being tied with rope, theres just something comfortable about it that makes me feel safe and secure, yet vulnerable all at the same time...

...like having a full body hug.

Mx

[Sailor861]

Hi minxie:

I could not help but think what the character in your little avatar -- is that Button? -- might think of his/her perpetual bondage. Imagine, spending the rest of your life behind bars and on that cursed little wheel for exercise. Heh.
Very best wishes,

Sailor

I voted for 'Bondage' - I especially love being tied with rope, theres just something comfortable about it that makes me feel safe and secure, yet vulnerable all at the same time...

...like having a full body hug.

Mx

[minx]

The picture is of Biscuit the rat, she's one of four named Buttons, Rasin and Peanut (all girls) isn't she cute!

I've often thought it would be fun to see what it would be like to be trapped in a cage for a while! they don't have a wheel tho, as theyre not good for long ratty tails...

Mx

[allalone46]

The picture is of Biscuit the rat, she's one of four named Buttons, Rasin and Peanut (all girls) isn't she cute!

I've often thought it would be fun to see what it would be like to be trapped in a cage for a while! they don't have a wheel tho, as theyre not good for long ratty tails...

Mx

I like your idea of fun. me I would love to put a female slave in a cage for long periods of time , and other restraints, Though I would give her somthing to do from time totime. :[

[devil_in_high_heels]

i'm new to all this *blushes*, But i'm all up for bondage and dominance/obedience.

[Rex]

I find bondage to be the catalyst for bdsm "play". seeing my woman tied down to a point of her not being able to move anything but her eyeballs. This would surely mean that various spin-offs come into play. She is helpless -- useless -- totally dominated -- in full submission -- feeling almost like an object (and loving it) -- so total obedience automatically kicks in. Depending on what foreplay is stirred up, the endorphins build to a point that your "toy" wants more than just penetration. She leaves me to devise different methods of satisfaction -- whipping -- clips -- no pins or blood because i know the limits of her endurance -->
*thinking* this might be getting a little long winded for some but as we are all in the same circle of fantasy, I'm sure you get the drift.
Bottom line: its bondage for me with all the rest falls into place naturally.
Just play sane and safe to gain her trust and eventually, you can both extend the boundaries. Its mentally stimulating planning your next cession.
Have phunn :-[

[rob.wilson]

I want to change my vote! I voted for Bondage but after thinking about it, the "other" catagory is best for me.

I was at a club spanking a young women yesterday and was happily in "Dom Space", but the morning before the girlfriend and I were playing a game where she served me like a maid would. No sex or bondage was involved but the intensity of it was astounding.

I think I'm attracted to all parts of the BDSM puzzel. So lets move my vote to "Other" or "All of the above!"

[sirken]

I voted for Domination as think there can be none of the others until that is established in the relationship

[alura]

I guess that's true, but wouldn't you say that it's also important to know what YOU personally like before you go into any relationship? That way there's no room for emotional or physiological damange. (dang, I can't spell today!)

Of course, that's only my opinion and only one of zillions, I'm sure.

Although, I must admit that the idea of a big dominating me, as long as I know that he loves me (and he doesn't leave scars or draw blood) is extremely titillating. I guess my biggest fantasy has always been to be 'owned' by someone and expected to trust them, no matter what. The idea of eating at a man's feet after he's fed me, having him feed me scraps/tidbits is equally exciting. Of course I also have more interesting fantasies, like bathing my lover and then drying him off with my tongue.....

Whoa! DOWN, girl!

Lord, this place is bringing out the real me, that's for sure!

[alura]

Do you really look like your picture or are you hiding like the rest of us? -grin

I voted for Domination as think there can be none of the others until that is established in the relationship

[sirken]

The number one favorite wasnt on the list so I said Domination but as you said the true number one is trust and growing on the journey, learning everything about each other, so you and that person can become as one, the images stirred by what you wrote brought back fond memories thank you

Ps::: the hair is grayer now comes with age and experience

[Microwave0ven]

i voted for domination/obedience, but was very close to voting bondage.. i guess 'cause domination/obedience would cover more of the other parts too, so it's more of a "blanket" term than the others, which are more specific, but also might fall under my choice

[Darkgirl]

I voted for hard pain. To feel pain is to feel alive. Does this make sense?? Anyway, although I've only actually experienced an amount of pain (punishment to my arse and pussy) I'm willing to take more and the bondage only enhances the fact that I can't back out. Its part of the excitement.
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[subthoughts]

Bondage, bondage and more bondage! It's the completeness of the vulnerability, the total trust you must share with your Dom, the freedom from all choice.... it makes everything else fall into place: pain more endurable, humiliation more stinging....

[ProjectEuropa]

Bondage for several reasons. Firstly is the incapacitation and total vulnerabilty of ones object of desire. Done well it pronounces those delectable areas of the female anatomy (not that any part is not delectable)The aesthetics of Japanese rope bondage are a delight to the eye, it's a beautiful erotic art form (apparently a master has to serve a seven year apprenticeship). One can induce pain and discomfort which a sub has to deal with and send her into space while one has time to study the complexities of her facial expressions (big erotic turn on for me) as she goes on her journey.

I'm going to Japan this summer and hope to see a master in action. That is going to be a great thrill.

[Ruby]

i voted for domination/obedience, but was very close to voting bondage.. i guess 'cause domination/obedience would cover more of the other parts too, so it's more of a "blanket" term than the others, which are more specific, but also might fall under my choice

MO, good point.

I was having a tough time here - cause I want to vote for two things:
Domination/obediance and bondage.

They are both exciting and wonderful to give and receive.
There's something special about being all tied up and then in a husky voice my man grunts out a command to do something....or vice versa. Love it.

Both! I vote for both!

No - wait, Darkgirl has brought up another cool aspect. That feeling of pain that wakes up your whole body and make you feel alive.

Is there a way to vote for three? * laughing *

Humiliation and downright torture don't do anything for me in real-life.
No pleasure - no play.

Will think about which button to push again later.
Looking forward to more insights.

[Myya]

It's tuff to decide, so many good options, but I had to go with Humiliation. It's one of those things you just can't describe, normally it conjures up a really crappy feeling, but for some reason when it's tied to a sexual responce it's incredible. Almost feels like it's magnifing everything your feeling, every little touch, or wiggle, or gust of wind. Makes you want to just die, or orgasm right there, but you can't decide which.

It may have to do with the nature of humiliation, being that it's already a situation out of your control it can invoke the feeling of bondage even if you aren't tied in any way ((but it's even better when you are!))

To date the most incedible thing I had happen was when one of my friends ((he shall remain nameless )) thought I was being just a little bit too bitchy one day and spanked me in the parking lot outside his store. My face was about as red as my ass, and it wasn't all from the tears.

[Locked Advantages]

With me I went with domination and obediance because my submission to one always comes first but I feel the humiliation is close behind since I've always had many interests

[bug]

the hardcore serious infliction of pain most defintely *nods* anything worth doing is worth doing as well as ya can i always say *laffs*

[TaintedLovexx]

Mmmm, obediance.

[Kaori-san]

It's the bondage, discipline and obidiance thats my favourite aspect, and the knowledge that my master is pleased. The humilation thing isn't as big a deal for me really though.

[Sam'sJasmine]

I picked dominance/obedience, the pleasure and excitement I get from me wanting to obey and/or being made to obey turns me into a wet slut. I enjoy the feeling of being ordered to do things that are not within the sexual "norms”; I like being a slut to Him and only Him. I also like to fight and laugh during play. Hence the uppity bottom. I love it when he wraps my long hair around his hand and makes me do what he wants, whether its to suck his cock, get ready to go somewhere, or throw me down on the bed, pull down my jeans and give me a hard hand spanking, the paddle, the crop, or the whip (or all of the above hehe ). I enjoy the other aspects of BDSM, but nothing gets me wetter faster than being dominated.

[Misanthrope]

Well, I'm more of a masochist than anything, so you can guess what I picked. Gonna visit my Mistress soon, and luckily for me she recently got a new riding crop. Since we will be taking a 5 hour car ride to visit her folks, I expect to have a very sore ass before it even starts.

I like bondage, but have yet to have much experience with it.

Not too much into humiliation, but I don't mind it.

[candiL]

for me, humiliation & discipline hardcore are the most.

i like having someone make me do something that i wouldnt have ever thought of doing. grosser & crazier the more it excites.

[sweetlitlwon]

Darn its so hard to choose just one but I think for me overall it is being Dominated however domination in my relationship means bondage,humiliation and yes sometimes pain.So I guess Domination has to be my choice.

[peter de sade]

for me, humiliation & discipline hardcore are the most.

i like having someone make me do something that i wouldnt have ever thought of doing. grosser & crazier the more it excites.

Glad to hear you love humiliation and discipline. So do I and I am happy to share some ideas with you as to how I could take a willing sub like you and really turn her on with some wild situations. We can really go to the limits, if you are willing to make the journey.

Peter de Sade