Finger Anal

[B3aR]

I have always been into anal play, but i've never done anything. I slyly told my g/f about the "A-spot" and said it was just like the gspot on a girl. I told her it was up in my rectum. Then she got curious and asked if she wanted me to do find it. I played it off as No No, thats not me. Then she said it's ok if you do. I'd think i'd like to try. We head out to my couch and she starts to bite my neck and have her hand down my pants and she starts to rub my hole. I told her to just do it, and get it over with. Still Playing her off. I told her it can be revenge since i put it in hers aswell. We decide to get some baby oil and i lay on my back on her lap. She works it in saying relax so it's not so tight. I relax and then ZOOOOOOOOOM, instant exctasy. She started to rub the gland and i couldn't hold back i started to jack off, and i came everywhere. The only thing wrong, after all this, she said I don't think i want to do that again. She asked me if i was mad, so i played it off and said no. She said if i really wanted she would.
I honestly think your not gay if you do anal stuff. I think every guy would like to have a girl touch that spot. It is amazing.

Does anyone have any ideas how i can make her keep doing this to me?

[Jadetiger]

B3aR,
You need to talk to her and find out what it is that she didn't like about it. It may be something simple like the fact she would rather do this kind of play when she knows you have cleaned yourself out first. I know that is would be a big factor for me and giving yourself a couple of enemas first can take care of the problem.

Jade

[GarrickBailley]

just get her to put a condom on her finger as well can help...I know sticking your bare finger up there can be a little bit of a turn of for most.

[Ranai]

Congratulations to your girlfriend and you on exploring new erotic territory!

To get the definition clutter out of the way, forgive me for stating a number of banalities. I am just not a fan of lumping different things together by association. You are right. Sex techniques are one thing; sexual orientations are another. An interest in a technique does not indicate what gender of sex partners you are attracted to. Every man has an anus with lots of sensitive nerve ends and a prostate. If stimulated, the body reacts. Variation depends on degrees of sensitivity. Some men like to do it, some don’t. Some guys are interested in having a girl touch that spot. Some are interested in having another guy touch that spot. Some are interested in both. Some are not interested at all. Sex techniques are one thing; dominance and submission are another. A particular technique does not necessarily indicate anything about submissive or dominant feelings. In summary: If you like anal play, you like anal play. ‘Straight – bisexual – gay’ is another question. ‘Submissive – switch – dominant – neither’ is another question.

To get back to your personal account, can you make her keep doing this to you? No, you can’t.
But you could ask her. You could tell her how much you enjoyed it, and maybe she’ll agree to experiment some more. Again, whether you as a pair get into any kind of D/s mood while doing this or not is an open question, not a given fact. Just enjoy and see where it leads you.

You write ‘I played it off’ various times. How long have you been together? How well do you know when the other is being coy and playful, or honest? With all this talk of ‘that is not me’ and ‘get it over with’ and ‘revenge’, do you think you got the message across that she was fulfilling a sexual fantasy of yours? That you appreciated it and were happy about it? You need to tell her. Just seeing you come does not mean much. That’s just the inevitable physical reaction. Did you ask whether she enjoyed doing it to you, and what she did not enjoy? Jadetiger and Garrick Bailley make excellent points about the shit aspect. Also, perhaps she did not like your impatience: grabbing your own cock, instead of letting her play with your body at her own pace.

Should you both in addition want to introduce D/s flavour, some ideas:
Ask what position she wants to have you in. Ask where she wants you to put your hands, and keep them there. No jacking off – unless she tells you to. Put yourself in her hands. Let her decide and set the pace. Let her draw the experience out. It might be more fun for you! Either keep your hands where you are told, or maybe she is interested in tieing them instead.
Incidentally, what does your girlfriend like? Do you have an idea how to offer her your services and ask what she wants from you?

And, finally, she enjoys biting your neck? My kind of girl.

Have fun!

[Misanthrope]

What Ranai said is very wise. First and foremost be up front with eachother. And if she knows how much you enjoyed it, she might be will to do it again.

Maybe you could encorporate this into a 69, and please her while she's doing it. Plus, speaking form experience, it is totally mind blowing to get a blow-job while the girl is massaging your prostate.

A bit off topic, but you might want to get one of these; it's called the Aneros, and I was recently given one by my Domme (as some people can attest to, I have been talking about it quite a bit.) This thing is amazing, it's not much bigger than a finger, but the design is brilliant. Basically, when your muscles contrat, it will massage your prostate, so it's totally hands free. This might be a good thing to introduce, that way, you could get the stimulation you want, but your girlfriend wouldn't have to do something she might not like. And since it's hands free, she could be doing other things to you, you could even use it during intercourse.

[kist]

All good advice given imho
I'm just wondering what _else_ happened during this play session. If all that happened was you getting off, it may be as simple as your g/f wanting more than just watching you?
respectfully
kist

[B3aR]

Thanks, All The Information was very helpful.

She did tell me what postion to lie in, which was helpful. I believe no man is gay if he likes anal stuff. I think it increases the "mood" (can't think of a word)

As for her biting my neck, Ohh ya, she's Good at that. Which i don't think u have to have a degree for it, but she knows my spots.

As for the Anero's, i'd love to have that, it looks like a good toy. I really want to bring her into this world. As i like it alot.
I'll sit her down one night and see how she felt about it.
Thanks for the INFO.

[Adamoverjules]

I don't know if anyone took to this like I did...but...my idea would be to not play it off as if you didn't like it in the first place, don't try to 'trick her' into doing what you wanted her to do in the first place, but since you already did...just tell her 'you know what, I really liked what you did the other day' and figure out why she didn't like it, and go from there.

[Ranai]

As for her biting my neck, Ohh ya, she's Good at that. Which i don't think u have to have a degree for it, but she knows my spots.

I bet she’ll be happy to hear that!!

Good luck with your talk and further developments. I agree completely with Adamoverjules here. Be honest. Let her know what you enjoy. Ask her what she enjoys. kist has a very good point too. Maybe next time she would like you to pleasure her first? And if you get one, let us know how you liked the Aneros Misanthrope has been enthusing about?

I believe no man is gay if he likes anal stuff.

Er... Some men who like anal stuff are gay. Some are straight. Some are bi. When you write sentences with 'every guy' and 'no man', please check whether they make sense.

If your girlfriend should turn out to be interested in BDSM and wants to read around, here is a recommendation: for me personally one of the best resources on the net is Gloria Brame ’s website. You might like it too.