So I forgot to make the bed (twice) and now we have an interesting discussion

[Rhabbi]

Holy crap. Go away a few days and look at the mess! Damn Doms...no wonder they have subs...somebody has to clean up.

Which brings up the topic of this thread. (like the segue?)

In my defense, I said you could explain this better than I could, and you summed up the whole of my position succinctly. Simply assuming that someone is being disrespectful simply because they forget is a bad position because it does not take in all the factors. Plus, IMO, it is disrespecting them. And, yes, subs do deserve respect.

[annie]

I don't think anyone is saying subs don't deserve respect. Very simply the views are different on how to handle a situation where a sub forgets and that has many different variables to each person. Each relationship is different and each response will be different... such is life!

[rach]

I suppose really it comes down to the fact that a D/s couple do what works for *them* within the parameters and boundaries they have agreed.

rach

[Mishka]

That's my limited experience. Perhaps someone with a live-in 24/7 M/s relationship could explain their experience from both sides it might help. Honestly, it seems to be a personality thing rather than a cut and dry D/s rule.

silly subbies... laughs.

AHEM! Speaking of experienced M/s live-in couples...

that's quite a tease there to not say more. No pressure or anything...but unless WV is simply not the forgetful type...have you had to deal with this yet? Maybe share a tiny bit of how you handled it? Or maybe WV would be more forthcoming?

No demands...just interested.