Surprising your Dominant

[alpha_Straye]

Mine has asked me to "take the initiative" in pleasing him sometimes. I'm never sure what to do, though! I don't want to spend money, because since we're engaged and living together, and money is tight, I don't want him to think I'm spending our rent or anything. And I have tried to cook for him as a surprise, but it always ends in disaster.

well... i know this isnt the sexiest suprise in the world but something i did for Owner once was to clean and organize His dresser for Him. when i was first living with Him it was a tangled snarl of clothes and very grungy. it was just an old hand me down dresser, probably third or fourth hand, and Owner is rather the Distracted Artist sort so.. it was in sad shape.

He was downstairs working hard on something, deeply focused, and i was upstairs trying to stay out of His way (i think He might've been feeling a bit grumpy that day too). i was a little worried about Him maybe being cross about me prying into His things but as He allowed me into the dresser to put away His clothes i figured it was probably ok.. i was just doing a better job than usual i figured. i took everything out and washed the drawers inside and out, scrubbing the heck out of it, even getting a tooth pick or something and detailing the old gummy edges. then i folded the clothes up as perfectly as possible, like if they came fresh from the store shelf, every crease as perfect as i could get it, and put everything away in neat stacks. i even fixed a piece of the trim that was loose and hanging off at the edge.. and the bottom of one drawer mightve gotten fixed too i cant recall.

it took me the whole afternoon and into the evening but it looked like a different piece of furniture by the time i was done with it. and it kept me out of His hair while He worked, which was a nice side perk but i did it because .. well.. He deserved better than His grungy tangled mess of an old dresser, even if it was only a dresser and He didnt mind/notice it being a mess.

it wasnt sexy and it wasn't play but i think He was really touched and very pleased because id focused on it and bothered to do it as well as i possibly could .. and i did it for Him, for my regard for Him, because He deserved better than what He had.

so it's not initiating sexual stuff, but it was a bit of a risk, not knowing then that He would be ok with me messing with His belongings, and i initiated it because He wouldnt have thought to ask me to do it. i just wanted to show Him in a tangible way how i felt for Him.

and it was free and required no special skills. *smile*

so.. maybe there might be something like that you could do for Him maybe?anything above and beyond what He might ask or think to ask of you. i believe it was the thinking to do it on my own and then doing it perfectly, for Him, doing something to care for Him, to better some small part of His life.. because of my respect and love for Him, that pleased Him so much. there's probably lots of pleasant little suprises one could do for Him- maybe polish His shoes while He sleeps.. bring Him His breakfast right when He wants it without His having to ask for it.. whatever might be nice for Him. and if you cant cook as well as you'd like you could still maybe lay whatever it is out as beautifully as possible. even cold cereal can still be nicely done- put on a breakfast tray, everything laid out neatly with precision and forethought. if He likes a spoon for His coffee or sugar or whatever, have it right at hand, neatly laid out without being asked.. a little flower from the yard on the tray, the paper, the tv remote.. whatever He might want, done as nicely as one can do it with whatever you have.

would He enjoy something like that? it's just an idea *smile*. and the dresser example is probably dry for everyone else it's just the one that comes to mind as it was the first time i did that sort of thing for Him.

(and no im not compulsively tidy- my room is a mess by anyone's standards and so is my own dresser.. though at least i dont need to unknot my clothes to get them out of the drawer and my socks are matched even if theyre dumped into my drawer willy nilly *L*.)

[blythe spirit]

alpha, I think that's just sweet. *smiles

[alpha_Straye]

*shy smile*.. thankyou

[naughtylittleme]

Mine has asked me to "take the initiative" in pleasing him sometimes. I'm never sure what to do, though! I don't want to spend money, because since we're engaged and living together, and money is tight, I don't want him to think I'm spending our rent or anything. And I have tried to cook for him as a surprise, but it always ends in disaster.

Honey if you ever need any help in the kitchen well advice wise anyway just let me know. When my wonderful husband and I married I could cook exactly 2 things frozen pizza lmao and spaghetti. I learned how to cook over the phone with my mother. Now I can cook basically anything and would be more than willing to tell you some easy as pie dishes sure to dazzle him In just over 7 years of marriage I have made only 1 thing that hubby said OH NO WAY too so either I have a natural tallent or I listen very well on the phone lol.

B

[naughtylittleme]

When Ocean and I were together I had went to a flea market one day and found this stainless steel puzzle ring. It was two rings that had puzzle shapes that interlocked. I saw it and through the metal was strong which in inself represted something but the two jagged halfs of the ring fitting together was perfect.


So I bought it and suprised him on cam with it. If I remember correctly he really did like that I took that initiative to show that I was his. Even though the world didn't know what it meant.. we did. And I wore it everyday...

My husband wants one of these for Christmas. Not for the same reasons though lol. Our oldest son is Autistic and the Autism awareness ribbon has puzzle pieces on it.


Aside from that I was a very poor sub last night and it has left me feeling very icky indeed. I just could not for some reason get into the right mind set or sub space if you will and I am so very dissappointed in myself. So I have decided today that I will surprise hubby when he comes home. I will have a nice meal prepared (wow have I slacked lately), be clean shaven (hehe) and dressed in a manner which let's him know I am ready to be a good girl again, and have the house cleaned. Actually cleaned not the half ass crap I do on a normal day to 'get by'. I find that if I do things throughout the day with him in mind. Such as I am going to clean and then he will be so pleased with me that I am much better at serving him in the evening. If I sit around and be a bumb all day like I was yesterday I am just like blah leave me be. So hopefully my work today will get me back to where I should be and focusing more on him and getting out of myself and if I do good enough maybe I will be rewarded with a proper punishment for last nights crappiness and then an ever so nice reward. A girl can dream can't she