impossible task/punishment

[kimmie-baby]

Hi all, i feel like ive been given an impossible task from rl dom and i want to cry thinking about it. Basically i was giving 'attitude' i call it an opinion and its progressed from a 10,000 word essay to a million words! I kid you not 1 million words. This went up and up as i couldnt write 10,000 tonight (i have assignments and work and need my sleep) and gave smart arse comments about writing a triology and if they wanted it printed in hardback (making it worse for myself i know) granted it took up to a million before i stopped protesting but i think i have valid reasons for protesting and i wasnt arguing i was explaining my current busy schedule. Anyway my question is do you think this is as impossible as i do and do you think if i sit and type as much as i can as well as i can the fact i didnt hit a million will matter? He did specify not one word over or under but im really worried that ill not make the word count. I really dont want to fail but its like its an impossible task.

[karley]

Does this have a time limit? Because i'm thinking maybe in a life time you'd be able to complete a million words, considering (i believe) you're not a professional writer. by my calculations a million words is going to put at about 2220 pages in microsoft word (double spaced).... i'm not really sure what advice to give you on this situation, as i'm not actively involved in the relationship, but this seems almost like an excuse to give you more punishment, in your own words, and impossible (given a constricted time) task.

[denuseri]

Well sounds to me like you need to sit down with him and establish some limits...starting with "If you want to have the privelage of dominating me, then you will need to be reasonable".

[delish]

denuseri took the words right out of my mouth.

However, I would like to add in that you need to afford him some respect as well. If he told you without any warning that you had to write a 10k word essay and you wanted to discuss your limits, that's probably a good time to safeword and go, "Hey, that's not cool. This was never discussed before, so springing an enormous essay on me without any warning whatsoever is entirely unreasonable," and discuss it from there. If you had agreed to that specific punishment previously, for some reason, or he told you (from the moment he started feeling like you were being inappropriate) that you needed to think about your words before you spoke, to the point where he said, "If you can't stop talking about this, you're going to have to write me that 10k word essay," and you kept pushing up to a million words, then that's on your own head. If asked my advice by a top in such a scenario, I'd ask him/her if the sub was worth the trouble. Truth be told, I'd ask the same in a similar, but vanilla, situation.

Most situations like this don't just have easy answers. My relationship is not your relationship is not her relationship, and so on. Nuances matter.

Either way, a million words sounds a little like his temper got the best of him, which can be dangerous.

[VaAugusta]

"i'm not really sure what advice to give you on this situation, as i'm not actively involved in the relationship"

You could literally say this in every post. I think what she's looking for is literally what your opinion is. There's no need to preface this, we know you're not in the relationship.

[MystressAutumn{tornsub}]

I am a writer little one, and I know from experience that the task at hand is far beyond reasonable, it is impossible. Even Stephen King himself at his wordiest could not accomplish this task. You need to take a look at how much you really want to be with a Dom who is going to be this unreasonable. A true and caring Dom/me cares about the welfare of their sub, something he clearly does not take into account. A D/s relationship is not only for the enjoyment of the Dom/me, but for the sub as well. Punishments are not supposed to be made so impossible that one is despondent and you are hitting that from the sound of your post. You really need to weigh the pros and cons of what is going on in your relationship.
I wish you the best no matter what your decision.

Mystress Autumn

[VaAugusta]

I think it's reading a little much into a single post to say: Impossible task--> Doesn't care--> End relationship

It's not considering a host of possibilities: 1) He felt his only bargaining factor was exacerbating the punishment. Which he got called on his bluff... (oops)
2) He's illiterate and doesn't know how much 1 million words is
3) He is giving one of those 'I know you'll fail tasks' so he can give her the physical punishment she needs.

[delish]

VaAugusta, it may actually be an important thing to say. It's important for people to reflect back on their situation. "This person on the internet says I'm right, so I must be!" is a more common thought than you might believe. By prefacing it with statements like, "I don't know what your relationship is like, obviously..." and so on, it turns the statement to bear on the asker's perspective.

I don't think anyone said "He obviously doesn't care, so you should end the relationship as fast as you can." What is being said is that, based on the information we have, he's being unreasonable, and if he can't see that (and see that it's affecting her negatively), then she needs to do some thinking.

I understand the idea of the impossible task to give her more punishment (which she wants), that's why the nuances of the relationship matter. Also, if he doesn't realize how long it would take to compose 1 million words and he is illiterate, I say that's totally grounds for immediately ending the relationship, with complete and utter sincerity.

[VaAugusta]

It wasn't exactly in that wording, but I know pointed speech when I see it:
"You need to take a look at how much you really want to be with a Dom who is going to be this unreasonable." "A true and caring Dom/me cares about the welfare of their sub" "You really need to weigh the pros and cons of what is going on in your relationship."

What is being suggested here? :/

Anyways, the illiterate part was just for jokes. Not srs. Which is what I think the poster needs to think about the whole thing: Impossible task is not srs!

[leo9]

Let's not get sidetracked on the details of the task, it would be the same if he had ordered you to cut down the tallest tree in the forest with a herring. What seems to me to be happening is:

1) You have been brattifying in a way that suggests that either
a) You want out of the relationship and are trying to piss him off till he dumps you. Since you've asked for help I'm guessing it's not that.
b) You feel neglected and undominated and want to prod him into taking charge of you hard. Not ideal behaviour for a sub, but sometimes you have to if your Dom's not holding up his end of the relationship. I'm guessing that the tough schedule you refer to may be part of the original problem: you want to be taken in hand and punished till your everyday stresses no longer matter?

2) He has failed to get the hint, or understand the real life concerns that are pushing you to demand more attention, and tried to carry things along at the level they were before, using the punishments that worked before. But they don't work now because they just add to the mundane problems by giving you an extra workload. And he has painted himself into a corner by giving you a task which you both know can't be done.

The best way out would be for him to decree that for your impossible task he will subsitute something short and sharp - a serious caning, a heavy enema, orgasm overload, whatever you use for punishments, but it should be close to your limit so that neither of you feel you are being let off. After which you will be forgiven if you behave yourself humbly herafter, but he will be keeping a tight rein on you. And then do keep that tight rein.

How you get that idea across to him, and make him understand that you have been acting up because you need tighter discipline, is another problem and depends a lot on your level of communication. I suggest a serious letter combining apology and appeal for help, and not saying too bluntly that he has been failing in his role as your Dom.

Keep us posted.

[DowntownAmber]

This thread got me to wondering so I pulled up my archive of saved Word documents. I narrowed what I looked at down to files saved at the start of the year up through the present date: approximately 450,000 words halfway into the year. Add that to the ballpark 750 words I write on average each day in forums and emails etc., I get to one million words roughly every eleven months.

Hmm.

Perhaps you should take this assignment as a sign your Dom is in it for the long haul!

In all seriousness, however, simply sit down and have a discussion with your Dom about the perceived severity of the punishment in relation to the crime(s) committed. Unless this is a habitual occurrence in your relationship, I can't imagine he'd be opposed to hearing your side of things if approached in a mature and reasonable way.

[anie]

I suggest joining milwordy and lots of luck.

[sweetly_wicked]

It may just be that your Dom is trying to make you realize a little humility and force you to accept that you cannot do this, which means that you must apologize to him very sincerely and hope he's in a better mood, reinforcing his dominance over you. If that sentence made any sense at all, that is....

[lozerette]

My "solution" would probably just get you in more trouble... Write a reasonable-length essay, then end with, "...and I am very very very very very... (copy/paste as many more a you need to hit the limit) ... very very very sorry!"

[kimmie-baby]

hi all, and thank you for your advice and input. After reading what was said I went and had a conversation and he listened and we came to a compromise. I could either do the essay however long it took or I could accept a physical punishment in its place. I opted for the physical though I have no idea what it will be and I've been assured that I'll wish I took the essay. Obviously no limits will be broken and hopefully I made a wise choice and I can actually sit down next week...

To clarify some points that have been made I can say that I have been an absolute nightmare and I was warned that he was running out of patience several times. I'm generally bouncy and full of energy, with an upbeat personality. I love to wind people up and just have a laugh. Putting up with that 24/7 would drive any one crazy I think. I don;t enjoy punishment and I don't do it for that purpose I just have a mischievous side. Plus I haven't been listening to anything lately, in fact I've been really disrespectful in general. For instance the night I posted on the forum I was supposed to be in bed. After insisting on how tired I was and how busy my schedule has been you can imagine that he wasn't best pleased when he found out I was messing about on my phone. I really haven't done my self any favours and I know i'm not painting a good picture of myself. So Instead of pointing the finger and arguing your just being unreasonable it's all you, The whole situation has made me realize some things about myself and how I've been acting and for that I'm grateful as I can work to change it. Maybe that was the whole reason for giving me such an impossible task, it did make me shut up and think and it's been beneficial in that sense. Anyway, fingers crossed for me that I get away with a slap on the wrist (I'm a fan of wishful thinking )

Much love

[delish]

Hi kimmie- I don't think you're painting a terrible picture of yourself, for what it's worth. You sound human, like anyone else. Well, most anyone else. I have my suspicions about some. Take it as a learning experience, as you seem to be doing. I can relate to your experience, in that I find it extremely difficult to be submissive when I'm busy. I get grouchy, speak carelessly, and lose attentiveness. I don't know why; perhaps it's because I don't deal well with stress.

lozerette: Your essay suggestion is my favourite of the bunch. I must file that away, in case such a situation arises for me!

[Misschief]

Journaling is an absolute necessity for subs post play, or to record arousing thoughts as they mentally present themselves.. Perhaps he is dissatisfied with the level of non-verbal feedback? Tops need to know how their bubbies feel, it is important to those for whom mutual satisfaction and power-exchange are essential..

[Reveler]

I agree with what all the other posters have said, this is an impossible task, but I tend to think that your dom knew this, and rather than have you spend much of any time working on it, he wanted an apology and a change of attitude and this unfeasible punishment was his way of hoping you'd realize this.

Of course not knowing the situation, this is just my impression: either you spend forever writing, or end up having to talk it out and take your real punishment. Sometimes what seems unreasonable is really a ploy to get you to see reason.

On another note, I've always fantasized about being set impossible tasks and then being punished for not completing them. It brings me to an entirely new feeling of helplessness...and consequently wetness.

Hope everything works for the best!

~ Reveler