Lost and Confused

[gabriel niewolnikiem]

Hello everyone. i have been in the scene since the day i turned 18. i am currently with an absolutely wonderful couple who i have been with for just over a year. Wwe live 24\7 and i am domestic as well as sexual slave. Things were going great until i woke up one morning and just suddenly didn't feel like a slave anymore. This was about a week ago, and although i felt like a slave through my entire childhood i still cannot find that feeling i once had. i know that it upsets my Owners that i don't feel like myself anymore, but i don't know what i can do for this. Has this ever happened to anyone else. Has anyone else felt like a slave for years but then once you find your perfect Owner(s) the feelings suddenly drop. i am very confused and any help would be greatly appreciated. Thank-you.

[karley]

i have not gone through exactly what you're describing, though i frequently experience a variation of it. i've never felt like what my mind views as a "slave". i have, however, always felt the great need to simply not be the one in control anymore. This feeling led me to bdsm and helped me define my role as a submissive. However, fairly frequently i go through phases of extremely submissive tendencies/behavior, to almost not even thinking about it from day to day, or even identifying myself as feeling decidely not submissive that day. i've come to realize these feeling circulate a lot around my current mood and security level in whatever it is i'm doing, especially my relationship with my Master. When i feel very connected to my Master, as though W/we're very much on the same wavelength i fall easily into my submissive headspace. However, if W/we've not been in contact for a few days i begin to pull out of my submissive tendencies - i personally think this is my way of coping (my submission works wonders when its highly active, however when it's not in practice, i fall back on my old ways of relying on my own control, hence the loss of my submission)

i'm not sure that i have any real advice for you, but i hope that what i've shared has helped a bit.

[gabriel niewolnikiem]

Thank-you for replying. If nothing else it helps to know that i'm not the only one who loses their submissive side at time.

[thir]

These thoughts came up which I pass on, hoping that if it cannot help you along it might will spark thoughts in others.

One: if you were starved for outlet of sub feelings before, it can sometimes happen that you take on too much, and that when you are satiated, or at least have caught up with yourself, you find that you need less, or other, than what you originally embarked on. Too much of something BDSM will pull the brakes in your mind.

Two: As a switch, what used to happen was that when I had had a lot of one side, the other would emerge and demand attention. Could it be something like that?

Third: Do you have any health- or other problems at the moment? Such things can push any Ds back to the background of one's mind automatically - probably a sort of safety mechanism.

Lastly: hope you find your answer, but I'd like to say, if I may, that if it is really gone, you cannot do anything about it, as you cannot give what you do not have, no matter who much you might want to.
On the other hand, it would seem that one does not often simply loose it, though there can be periods where it disappears for one reason or other. I have never heard of that happening, though I have heard of people actively trying to get rid of it for their own reasons.

Good luck.