Hello Maried Dude and welcome to Forums, I am about to move this thread to the knowledge base part of the forums since is it much more about seeking information than just saying hello.

I would suggest that you could do a lot worse than reading Aesop's tips for beginners, http://www.bdsmlibrary.com/forums/showthread.php?t=4529 and many of the other threads in that section, and would also suggest you read them together, so you can talk about your reactions as you do so. Oh, and don't hesitate to come back with any comments or questions....

Have a great time here, and why not encourage your wife to sign up with her own ID?

cariad