Welcome to the forms MarriedDude - As cariad stated Aseops tips for beginers is a great starting point. A couple other places to search.

www.wikipedia.org - type BDSM in the search box of that site.

This next link I think is more along the lines of what your looking for however.

http://www.xeromag.com/fvbdsm_scenarios.html

Enjoy

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