Hi ToV,
I've found a few sites I like and even signed up for my own online toy store. (It was free to do so.) It's been a pleasure to use the items and anyone can sign up to have their own store. Even if they aren't going to promote it. The savings on your own purchases are worth the time.
I like to buy toys for me and my pet. * wicked grin *
Want your partner to strap you down and whip your tail?
How about a set of velco restraints and a nice riding crop.
It may seem tame, but you haven't mentioned if your partner is into this kind of play or not.
As for books and tapes, I'm sure the members here can offer lots of suggestions. Perhaps they can hop over to that other thread and provide some updates (hint, hint) it's been awhile.
Enquiring minds want to know.
Welcome to the forums,
Ruby