Quote Originally Posted by Master Blue
Hello to all :-)
Im very new to this, but I hope that I do this the right way. Im a male (41), live in Scandinavia and Im an online Master. I dont really know how I ended up being one, it just seemed right for me. Im unsure about it all, but I try to catch up with knowledge. Im doing it online because I have these urges to be in control. Im not seeking it in real life, its more in a "mind-way". Ive found out that I enjoy planning daring situations for my sub. I take great care in how she is to perfom certain things. Its fun planning events because I know that Im leading her way and I decides what she will encounter. Do I make sense? I feel pretty alone about it all. Its not sexual to me. I dont feel like playing with myself, when Im having her doing things. My pleasure is it get inside her mind, finding out what buttons to push in wich order to do it. When shes exited about what I plan for her, then Im too. Im not that into punishment, but she is. Therefore I have tried to find tricks and ideas for her to punish herself. Its not that easy. Im mostly here to aks for ideas and to learn from the wise :-)

Master Blue
Welcome Master Blue,

I am also an online Dom, but have had r/l experiences for many years. Without going into details, at this stage in my life I am happy to satisfy my eeerrrr domlyness, online.

I agree with you wholeheartedly that the fun of online is getting into someones head. It is far more a mental game than a physical. We, of course do use some physical activities in our play, but to me they are simply the tools used to help achieve the mindset, and the specific activities are not important in themselves.

To get ideas though, I recommend you go through a 'BDSM Limits Check List" (Note to the Mods: Do you have one posted here?) and discuss them together. Of course there will be many activities that are either impractical or unsafe to do in an internet relationship, but you will be surprised how many things that are in the list that you can use. Some will be a "I'm not sure how I would respond to this - but I'm prepared to try". And unless its an activity that is a complete turnoff for me (eg. scat), I will be happy to use it if it achieves the desired mindset in the subbie.

From the list you will now have activities that fall into a range of 'hate it' thru to 'love it'. The ones that tend to be on the more 'hate it' sort of scale are what you consider for the punishments - and hopefully you will find some there that you won't mind administering

Since this is the welcome thread, it would probably be better to continue it in 'Knowledge Base' if you would like to continue the discussion.

Brosco