I don't play casually and I have no experience with that (aside from cybering in chat rooms, but those days are long gone). I view my BDSM relationships like I do any other intimate relationship. I have to have things in common with my partner. W/we aren't having BDSM activities 24/7 and have lives outside of the lifestyle. Yes, I do live the BDSM lifestyle 24/7, but I don't remain chained to the bed, only to come animated when Master comes home.

Because I am Master's wife as well as His sub, W/we have to have things in common, or else it is a very lonely marriage (been there done that, not doing it again). And I think that with any intimate relationship, whether BDSM-related or vanilla, whether it is a marriage or live-in relationship, there have to be interests in common. Sharing is an major part of a relationship. You need to have activities and hobbies in common, or else you do your thing and she does her thing and you don't spend any time together. And that is how you grow as a couple, by spending time together and enjoying things together. Master and I spend as much time as possible together and it has really brought U/us closer as a couple.