I joined this site looking for advice and the company of others. I'm new to the scene and I am just learning questions I need to ask.

The crux: I feel that my submissive gf is looking for more of a 24/7 relationship than I am able to provide at my current level of understanding. She also appears to be fragile and internalizes aspects of our play which is affecting our vanilla relationship. The psychological aspects of our relationship has become stressful to me and I need some help. It is very important to me that she is not harmed by me hurting her (if you get my drift).

Control is a funny thing... when you have it responsibility makes the decisions.