I guess im lucky in the way that my Sir and I relate to each other in front of my girls...they are really young ( 5, 4 and 2 1/2) but we live a free spirited type of life so the way we are with each other doesnt give them any clues that our lives are any different then anyone elses...Whenever we need to discuss "things", we just put them in my oldest daughters room and turn on the Sprout channel and they stay put until we are done...As they get older, we may or may not let them know about our life IF they can keep their mouths shut to my VERY VERY religiously vanilla parents in law and that entire family.....