The guys need to get over it, especially when looking for a submissive female! It seems rather contradictory, to me, for someone who is supposedly submissive to be making the first move. Then, you have the problem of wanting a submissive female who is a lady in the street but a freak in the bed. Ladies do not "chase" gentlemen. I'm sorry, guys, but you can't have it both ways.
Oh, I almost forgot! You also have the Old School...where submissives do not speak to a dominant unless they are spoken to.