Quote Originally Posted by pierino
We all know, it looks different surfing the web. Most paysites offer extreme torture and brutality, but nobody shows or writes about what this people or actors prove doing this. What can common people or visitors think about BDSM? Sure not the same as we do, this gets me angry.
My meaning of being a master means to get pleasure and satisfaction, satisfying my sub, bringing her just a little over her limits, to please her afterwards the way she needs. As we all know, this limits may be different every day, or even every time.
Respecting safewords and my sub i have got the biggest pleasures of my life, and this is not written in any homepage with pictures and videos showing the most extreme face of BDSM. Where can i find a bigger joy, as to see my sub humiliated by myself? She is suffering all this because she respects me, trust me, maybe loves me and because she knows i will reward her with pleasure (and pain)! Sometimes a pair of clamps are enough, other times there is space for my most perverted fantasy, i dont want do decide the limit, my sub does.
I think we would all agree with the sentiments which you express, but visualistion or fictional description does have its place for many of those involved in BDSM in real life. There is apparently a well argued thread here about fantasy snuff. It is not one I have read, because I find it so distasteful, but I respect the members of this forum and accept that it can have a place in some people's fantasies.

It is my sincere hope that anyone who cares to think about the real world of BDSM goes beyond the images which are commercially presented. If that is all the effort they are prepared to make then they cannot expect to have an informed opinion.

You obviously have a great relationship with your sub well within normal boundaries, and I am delighted for you.

Looking forward to reading more of your posts and thinking about your thoughts.

cariad