Ah, I understand. The lightbulb maybe dim but it does power up on old Phoenix occasionally.

I agree that BDSM is probably the most taboo of all sexual discussions. (Mind you, so is sex or even mentioning the genitals is frowned apon.) Even my closest friends don't know of my interests. My reputation is that of a nice quiet innocent chap, darn ... how little do they know. <Wink!>

I don't know if you chose the wrong topic, I think perhaps it was more of a large topic to choose. There is so many aspects within. Care to narrow down the conversation area a tad?