Hi, lilyfever.

First, welcome to the Library! This was a good site for you to find. You might want to search the forums (or the web) for a topic sometimes called sub-frenzy. When you're new to this lifestyle, it's much like discovering a whole new and wonderful world. It's common to become a bit obsessed by it all. Then, add all that lovely new relationship energy of 'clicking' with someone who seems so special. It's natural and exciting and more than a little bit terrifying.

i have three bits of advice for you, and all the best wishes in the world. First, and most important, talk to other subs. Here, through PMs or the chat room, on other sites, or in your local community. It's important to have a support network and a place to go for advice (or sometimes just a hug). This is more valuable than you can possibly imagine. Second, learn as much as you can. The forums here are no longer very active, but there's a wealth of information. Learn from the experiences of others. Somewhere, there's a list of books for beginners. There's also a very valuable thread about how to safely meet your Dom in person for the first time. Finally, and this is the hardest one, try to go slow and be patient. With yourself and with him. If you're new, you're bound to make mistakes. That's ok. Take your time and try not rush too fast. This is a wonderful journey, but it's best when you appreciate each and every bit of it.

You might want to check out the Fun & Games area, too. It's a no-pressure place to hang out and make friends. Feel free to drop me a note if i can be of any help.

chip