Hello,

I'm a 44 year old black male in Richmond, VA. I fell into this many years ago when I began a relationship with my downstairs neighbor. She was a paralegal (of ALL things) who's job was consuming her life.

We started off having very intense sex which quickly evolved to very rough sex. Before we knew it she was in ropes and handcuffs and I was working on her butt with my belt. It was the most intense experience either of us had had up to that point. It lasted for about 10 months until I moved.

We stayed in touch for a few years getting together from time to time. By then we had both incorporated this behaviour into our lives. Since then I have been Dom to a number of women. Some long term. Some briefly. Some informally. Some with full gear and setting.

So I figure it was about time I joined a community like this. Thus far I have done this in relative isolation. Most of the women, who are interested in this, I have met randomly. Only a few have been online.

This looks like one of the nicer places to exchange information and meet folks. I look forward to getting to know some people.