The distance the candle is from your body will have an effect on the temp of the wax when it impacts your skin. The further away, the cooler the wax. So start at least at arms length away from the body. Then as you desire more heat, lower the candle. Also, goto a good candle store and get a parifin wax candle, the heat of that is even less than what you have now.

Hope you learn to enjoy it!

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