Hi,

This is an interesting tread as it deals with a subject that I (very quietly!) disagree with my owner about. Maybe I had better explain.

When we first met, my owner used to call me Sam which most people who hadn't met me before took to be a short version of Samantha while my old (vanilla) friends thought it was an innocent pet name. In fact it stood for 'Smart Assed Masochist' which just about summed me up before I learnt that it was NOT clever nor a good idea to try to out-clever my owner. But whenever he called me Sam, with a tiny sneer in his voice, I was reminded just why I had earned that nickname.

Then, after we had been together for about 18 months, he suddenly announced that I wouldn't be known as Sam any longer, as my behaviour had reached a largely acceptable level. So, from then on, he only called me Jane which is my real Christian name.

I was genuinely sad that he no longer called me Sam but, as he owns me, he has ever right to call me what he choses and, although I have told him of my feelings, I have been solely Jane for nearly two years now. Of course what my owner is doing is to reinforce his dominance over me by deciding what I am called, and allowing me no say in that decision.

So, for me, what I am called is yet another tool in the amoury of his control over me. I have to accept whatever name he choses for me, just as I accept his control over me.................

Love, Jane.