Hello.....I am new not only to BDSM Library but also to BDSM and I hope I can learn something from some of you. I had joined another online group and the FEMDOMS were so cruel to newbies. We have to start somewhere. I was not born knowing this and I have been a caregiver and nurturer for 40 years. To be a DOM is a struggle for me.
I have been divorced for a while and I started dating a man (a high school teacher, scary huh?) that works on the same campus as I do.
To know him in a professional way, you would never imagine that he is into bondage. After dating for a while and finding out that we are very compatible I started noticing he was making hints about tieing him up and having my way with him....so one day I surprised him with chains and later he brought over cuffs. Then he talked about a collar and other things. I'm slow, but I finally realized he was hinting at domination and degradation. Well, now I am at a stand still because I do not know how to proceed. I really feel very inadequate and like I am not delivering what he really wants. Mainly because I have NO imagination and no personal techniques and I really want to learn I just don't know where to go.