Hell, I was over 30 before I even THOUGHT about anything to do with BDSM. When I did get the urge, I spent a long time researching, attending public gatherings on the east coast, and lurking on the Web. When I finally took the first step, answering a personal from a woman wanting to be spanked, I found that it really was the "real world" and haven't looked back since--enjoying all everyone has to offer.