I know this was aimed at submissives, but I thought that perhaps I could comment on my experience. I remember the reactions I would get when I would state that I was Dominant.
I've been told, I have that nice guy look or too nice of a personality to be thought of as a Dominant. However, once a submissive interacts with me in a BDSM atmosphere, they tell me they now think of me in a differnet way that they first thought.
Anyway, the girls state what I find overall in BDSM. There are shallow people, but most follow what the submissives here are saying.
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