Wow. Thanks everyone for a great conversation.

It would seem many of you have the same opinions, which is very comforting. I think we can all agree in an "online" world our ability to stimulate our minds is much easier to do. You see the inside person as opposed to the external person. I get that.

I also think someone mentioned a certain confidence level. More so than the geeky guy wearing glasses with slicked back hair is the fact that they can not maintain eye contact, or have difficulties having a conversation. The confidence to look directly at someone, peer straight through them and see their most internal fantasies, and to whisper to them and hear in someone's voice the immense desire they have solely for you...these traits can go a long way. Looks have no importance in these scenarios and I also believe fully highten the stimulation and feelings you will have for someone.

Outside of that, I know when I meet someone outside of a BDSM community I will never be labeled as a dominate person despite being extremely confident and demanding of my own person environment. It's one of the reasons this question came to mind. So inside of this community or on other sites I frequent, when I begin meeting new people and share my photo, I wasn't quite sure what to expect.

I suppose I have a bit of hope after reading everyone's thoughts. It would seem i might have a chance to actually meet someone special after all.

Thanks again.
- Adam