I'm sure you'll get a few ideas here, LadyK, no doubt about that. *grins* And yeah, I know from my own sub experience that it's not always easy to come out with what you want and crave...I struggle with it from time to time as well, even though my Master does everything to make me feel good about my own fantasies. Hell, rationally I think it would be hard to shock him with anything, lol...but after years of keeping stuff to yourself, it's not always easy to open up. With time it will probably become easier for both of you. You seem to do a great job in being there for him. Good luck.Thank you for the warm welcome. Silke, my sub and I do talk. This WIITWD, has been his fantasy and I am accomodating, however, I believe he might have been 'shot down' so to speak, in the past and is still afraid to approach me with the big stuff. Even after 8 months of doing wiitwd. He is never at a loss for words but he just cannot seem to communicate to me exactly what he wants so I just do what is comfortable for me. I like to set up scenarios but do not have a vivid imagination. That's where I need help. I am going to root around in other areas in the Library. I know I will gain a tremendous amount of knowledge in here.![]()