Ds,

Huge hugs and lots of moral support.

Trust shattered can be devastating. There are some wonderful words of wisdom already written in this thread.

From my own perspective, I'd rather not distrust everyone because of the acts of one. Yet I do subscribe to the "burn me once, shame on you, burn me twice, shame on me" philosphy.

Friedrich Nietzsche said, "That which does not kill us makes us stronger."

So now you're at a point where you are feeling weak and vulnerable, because you've gone through one of the worst things that can happen in any relationship. Yet trust isn't universal, it's personal, it's earned and it's not given lightly.

You may have to learn more about yourself, what went right and what went wrong, discover what new triggers have been set insdie your mind and ask yourself what you really want, before you move forward and allow yourself to trust again.

Give yourself time.

"Fear" and "Love" tend to be mutually exclusive.
While living in fear, its hard to find love.

"Sometimes you just have to be brave. You have to be strong. Sometimes you can't give in to weak thoughts. You have to beat down those devils that get inside your head and try to make you panic. You struggle along, putting one foot a little bit ahead of the other, hoping that when you go backwards it won't be too far backwards, so that when you start going forward again you won't have too much to catch up."

– Ellie, "The Dead of Night" John Marsden

More big hugs,

Ruby