I was going to steal Timberwolf's quote, but he got here before I did....

I am definitely still at the beginning of my journey. But already I have met numerous subs that I don't think are at the right place in their life to begin their own.

It might be that they are not "true submissives" as Rabbit was discussing....or, it could be that they are just not really ready. For me (and I suspect for most), D/s is much more psychological than sexual. If you come into it with emotional baggage (as a Top, or a bottom), then you are just setting yourself up for disaster.

If you take a sub with emotional issues that haven't been resolved, and then beat them, call them nasty names, and engage in humiliation, you are at serious risk of inflicting some long term damage. As a sub I need to be strong enough to seperate playtime with reality.

Same goes for unstable Doms - as a sub I trust my Dom to take me to the edge....and then lead me back.

This is a very dangerous game we play - and we need to be careful.