The role I think is the hardest in our lifestyle is that a newbie Dom. For obvious reasons I have never been there, but have had the privilage of watching some 'going to be great' on line Doms take their first footsteps into this world. I have yet to had watch the process in real life.

They arrive, sometimes with knowledge gleaned from sites such as this forum, sometimes with impressions gleaned from literature, sometimes just with a gut feel that this is what they want.

And guess what, they meet a newbie sub, a wanna be sub, a bratty sub; and ouch, they get it wrong. Hardly surprising really. And then sometimes in an attempt to rescue their position they react by flexing what they think are Domly muscles they start strutting and make some terrible mistakes. Result a newbie Dom is suddenly seen as a wannabe Dom.

So come on fellow subs, another plea, lets support these newbie Doms, be tolerant of when they make basic mistakes. Be gentle with them, help build their confidence rather than topping from the bottom. Not always the most exciting or easiest of times, but I for one get a huge kick out of seeing the transformation, and knowing that I have been able to play a small part in the transformation from "I am new and am pretty sure I am Dom" to a "yes, this is me, and I am happy with who I am Dom".

cariad