There's no need to 'live out' a fantasy. A great fantasy can remain in the mind and exceed anything we can do physically.

In fact, 'living out' a fantasy destroys the power of it as a fantasy. It is then real play and not fantasy at all. Fantasy is something you imagine that exceeds what you can actually do. When you discover its practical limitations by trying to act it out, it is like putting blinkers and cuffs on the original fantasy.

Faibhar has written some good crucifixion stories, but I'm sure Faibhar would be the first to admit enjoying some great crucifixion fantasies written by other authors. I don't think you would be reading these stories by Faibhar if he spent his time in his back yard crucifying people.

There are some kinds of fantasy that are just not meant to be acted out, and if you try, the inevitable result will be disappointment, if not terrible pain and possibly even death. I would include crucifixion, but also the sort of themes in Dolcett's art, and my own wilder imaginings. They allow us to titillate the mind without endangering the body. It is not abnormal to enjoy the most impractical and extreme fantasies.

So I disagree fundamentally with the presumption by Bruce Boxer that fantasies are there to be acted out. The very best of them do no belong anywhere near a real playroom.