Hello slaveboy, and welcome to forums and the incredible world of BDSM.
I have moved your post to give you your own thread, so it does not get lost.
I am sure you will enjoy this place, discover lots about the lifestyle and maybe meet a mistress. Meeting someone is rarely quick and easy, and the best way to do it here, as anywhere else, is join in. By posting people will get to know you as a person and you are much more likely to attract the attentions of a mistress.
You may also wish to post in the personal's forum, possibly with a little more information about yourself.
Look forward to seeing you around.
cariad