Originally posted by Spitman
In r/l bdsm, the more you specify what is going to happen, the less easily the Master can create extra excitement by doing something new or surprising. Surprises are like the cream on the cake. They are a way for a scene to exceed the sub's expectations...
I believe there is a place for fantasies that are too extreme to be acted out, like those depicted in Dolcett's art. I have fantasy ideas that I find provocative, erotic and entertaining, and like the substance of dreams, these are often both extreme and impractical.
Originally posted by Boccaccio2000g
Enjoy your fantasy, should you elect to experience it, but be safe, too.
Boccaccio, I understand and appreciate your concern. And you are right, Spitman. The more specific the fantasy the less room for improvisation and surprise. But we are talking -and planning- about a scene that is based on an extreme fantasy. I has to be specific. Also, the way I am looking at my fantasy, I would probably not need or want anything to be unplanned. F. knows that and he is smart enough not to do anything we do not plan together.
When it happens, it will be under conditions of outmost safety and survability. After all, we are not even thinking about using nails! I will have a chance to back out until the very last moment. Safewords and safesigns will be in effect. He will have at least one other dom as backup. He is trained in first aid and CPR.
We know what to expect and even in the cold, dispassionate stage of planning, the scene still excites me, so he will make it happen. I wish I could explain why I do not want to give myself a way out, even though he will give it to me.
I might as well try to explain why we are all here.