Hmm, this is a tricky one. Like Dragon's muse I wear my collar 24/7 and it's not as subtle as an eternity collar, lol. So, in a way I'm non-comforming. Yeah, it gets attention sometimes and I suspect some people have a wild guess at why I wear this, but I haven't really confided in anyone of my r/l friends or family - I'm dancing around the subject.

So, I'm in both worlds and I need them both. I wouldn't give my 'nilla friends up for the need to wave 'lifestyle' in front of their faces. I'm very social and there's more to life than this. But yeah, sometimes I want to be able to be more open but fear to do so. It's probably not going to change anything, though...hmm...

I think what I want to find is some balance...to have people stop wondering about some of the weird stuff I do (because they'd already attribute it to something kinky and stop asking, lol)...but I'm not going to reveal this at any cost.