Okay, I just joined in, but I've been in thå BDSM circle for over 2 decades now. One of the things I like is hunt around in North America for BDSM party. In one of the party I went to in another city, the host was kind enough to provide a speech at the end of the party, more of a get together speech, and surprisingly, I learned something that I never forget and it's quite useful.

He said "make sure you don't express the opinion of 'Your kink is not my kink'", he went on and said "everyone has their own set of kinky fantasies, it is important that even we don't understand why some other's kink and fantasies is a turn-on, we have to respect it and keep the opinion to ourselves."

I don't like snuff stories neither, but if it is a fantasy, there is nothing wrong with it. I have heard a real story, however, from this radio show, "Rhona At Night", and this girl called in & said she only gets turn on by someone choking her by the throat. My guess is, due to the nature of the way a person's heart functions, the orgasm is more intense if she is being choked. Clearly it is a dangerous game. But there is a circle of that kind of kink around.