Q, a very interesting thread!

Let me start by saying I would never have thought I could be so happy being "one of Tojo's girls". I have never been one to be that confident of myself, and if you had told me last year that I would be in the relationships I am this year, I would not have believed you. Now, I am only in the beginning stages of our relationship and even with our planned meeting, it will always be an online relationship. I don't know if I would feel differently if it was a real life relationship.


1. Would you be more content if you were the only sub, or are you really happier being in a three-way relationship? If so, why?

No, I don't feel I would be more content, as I have been made to feel very content anyway. I really don't know if I would be happier if I were the only sub, but I somehow doubt it. I mean, I am very happy already.

2. When you have no contact with your dom for a while, do you get jealous? Do you think he is concentrating on the other sub?

No, as we have our set time when we talk, and there is plenty of PMs and/ or emails to remind me I am special. I know too when Tojo is talking to lisa, and don't disturb him at that time.

3. Would you ever consider issuing an ultimatum (“If I can’t be the only one, it has to end.”)?

No, that would never be something I would do. Now, if I was not happy or having fun, that would be a different story.

4. What did you feel when the second (or third etc) sub was brought into the relationship? Or, if you were the second, how did you feel about the first sub?

ok, I knew about Tojo other girls long before we began to move into what is still a growing D/s relationship. To me, it is just a part of who he is. I surprised myself by not feeling jealous, but then the older I get the more I have learnt to not let such a good thing pass me by either. I know too, he gets something different from us all, and that just makes me happy. I have often wondered though how lisa must have felt as I became a part of Tojo's life too, but then I think like me, she treasures the impact Tojo has on her life.


I have also established a very close relationship with Warbaby, that is very special to me. I feel it is because both men know the importance of all the relationships we have in our lives, they are happy so long as I am happy. I feel honoured to have these two wonderful, caring men in my life, and they have both given part of their lives to me. Together, they have opened up my eyes and my heart. I can't imagine my life without them.

I suppose what I am trying to say Q, is that I don't want jealousy or hurt feelings to spoil what I have found. It does still amaze me and I never knew I could be this open minded. But it has allowed me to open myself up to my true feelings for the first time in a long time, and that is something I am not planning on letting go off. I think as deila said, if it works it just works.