Although it's not for me, I can actually understand poly in real life more than I can online. At least in real life, one sub doesn't necessarily take away time from another sub. All can play together and share chores, creating more time for play. But online, it seems to be a mathmatical fact that one sub does take time from another. There are only 24 hours in a day - estimating at least 9 spent at work, 7 spent sleeping, 4 spent on meals and traveling to and from work, 1 spent grooming, 2 spent with the wife and kids, that leaves an hour a day to play. I want that hour, every day. I don't want to alternate days or wait until weekends. Moreover, when a dom is thinking about another sub, that is time he isn't thinking about me. I want a dom who spends as much time thinking about me as I spend thinking about him. We've all sympathized with Silke when she has spent days without any contact and have seen how emotionally difficult that is for her. No offense, but I can't understand settling for an hour of somebody (no matter how great that hour may be), unless that dom is just a temporary stop during a search from someone who can commit his whole self.
How could I miss this thread? Oh right...work, lol.

Anyway - I'm not going to go into the whole thing, but wanted to comment on your thoughts here, fantassy.

We actually do share time, even play together, discuss work together...so it might not really be too different from real life in that aspect. Do I sometimes miss having Master all to myself? Yep, sometimes. But you know, one thing I learned from my short experience of being in a poly relationship is, that you have to be open about what you expect, what you want, what you're missing etc...then it works. When I bring up something and need to talk about it, I'll have his full attention - same with SB.

You know, for me it doesn't take anything from me...I gained something. Now I don't only have a wonderful Master but also a new sister. We're having the time of our lives, be it together or seperately. I'm sure I'd have more jealous feelings if I didn't love her so much, though. I guess we were lucky that way. And, nope, I wouldn't want to have it any other way.

Another thing - I'm sure I wouldn't have lived through the time Master was away if it hadn't been for my sis. Her love was what kept me sane as much as humanly possible. We don't battle for time, fantassy, we spend it together. As far as I know, all three of us are winners and nobody lost anything in the process.

Just my two cents.