respecter - Two things come to mind when I read your post. First, what is it your looking for. Are you looking for just an online connection, or are you intent on eventually meeting these 'Doms'? Second, have they been able to teach you, help you grow as a submissive? Do you carry on conversations that are teaching you both the risks as well as the joys of different activities, or is it just kinky cyber?

So to the first question I have. If you intend only online, then their boasting might very well be to impress you, to get you to try to think of them in a more Dominant view. If you intend on more than online, well I would be looking for a new contact. All that conversation about their skills and such would best be saved for giving you a good time as a submissive, rather than just verbal jockeying for your attention.

To the second question. If the chat you are having with them is barely more than kinky cyber. Look for someone else. If they are able to teach you things, able to educate you. Start asking more detailed questions about whatever activity they are talking about. For instance, if they talk about how good they are with a flogger. Ask them if they use a windmill technique, or if they use more of a wrist action figure eight technique. Apply that level of detail to whatever activity they talk about, see if they are boasting, or actually have a clue.

If your looking for real contact, they should be very open and honest about their experience (not boastfull just honest). Dont be overly worried about a Dominant who admits they are kinda new. At least they have the confidence to be honest and open with you. That confidence has the potential to develop into a very good skill set for whatever they decide to learn.

Above all else, remember this lifestyle is about you having fun, you enjoying what you are experiencing. If you are not enjoying things, its time to change what you are doing, or who you are experiencing it with.

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