I don't have any problems aproaching subs but generally, when I've been contacted by a sub, it's more likely to go somewhere. It's not that I prefer it, it's just how it's always seemed to pan out.

Adam, I don't think you should worry in the least if it's your place or not. Somebody has to take the first step, and we're all grateful if it's somebody else who does it, Dom or not.

I think the secret to approaching anybody is to first make your move and then wait. If that first try didn't work then she probably isn't interested and you should move on. It's the being pushy part that could really annoy a Dom, and I have a feeling that even a pushy Dom is unwelcome among subs.