I've never met a domme in real life,well, not that I'm aware of, anyway. I know they exist both in loving relationships and, obviously, as professionals. My other half does allow me to dominate him occasionally, but it's never with any truly submissive sincerity. So, I can only tell you what I've observed on online.

Well, from what I've seen and, unfortunately, what I hear constantly lamented by submissive men, is that many online dommes aren't actually dominant. The dominance they display is often just a thin veneer to their submissiveness. Why they present themselves as dommes; I have not idea. So, beware.

I'm a switch. When I play at being dominant, the thrill of power and domination, over a man, consumes me completely. I see a lot of women on line who tag themselves "Mistress" but I see few with that same hunger to dominate. (I'm in a great online relationship by the way.)

Online or off, I think all women look for a man who is able to express himself. Particularly, when words are all you have, they're damned important! Let me tell you there is nothing worse than an introduction like this: "How r u?" If I ever hear about you using that dopey net shorthand, I will come and personally whip your ass!

And, please, please, never ever use: "a/s/l" !!! But, especially the "a".

Now, don't be afraid to initiate a conversation. Let me ask you this--what have you got to lose?

A good sense of fun helps too. Everyone likes to laugh. Just take care to know when to stop.

And, remember, unlike you--you horny little whore--the majority of women are looking for more than just a good fuck. They want intelligent conversation thrown in too.

Ok, having said that, please, when she's ready for that good old fashioned cyber fucking, please don't go boring her to distraction with "I'm very tall, tanned, and have a very athletic build..." because we've all heard that online bullshit before. Let me tell you, when she's feeling hot all she wants to know about is what's between your waist and your knees. Ok?

R/t try joining an online bdsm dating service. Alt and Collarme are two of the biggest.

And, finally, since submissive men seem to outnumber dominant women--good luck.