Quote Originally Posted by Tojo View Post
Shouldn't this be in 'Questions for a submissive?'

Is it subs you're talking to Adam?


Tojo
Yes, I'm meeting subs... or at least they are telling me they are subs. I have joined various BDSM dating sites and finding it rather difficult to make a connection, despite (from my approach) being very polite, friendly and honest. Maybe I just have higher moral values than the other men out there. (no offense to anyone).

The few connections I have made is what sparked this thread. In the times I have chatted with the females I have met, they have all constantly complained about the mass amount of messages and inquiries they receive. Some of the women have shared with me the typical messages, which are usually something along the lines of "Ur Hawt! Down on ur knees biatch, Daddy's here!" ... or whatever.

So I'm like, well damn, I'm a bit more formal, intelligent and sincere, but at least you GET 20-30 messages a day. Yes granted most of the inquiries are from people you probably don't want to meet, but you do get them. So it made me start wondering why I have never been contacted. Is it my profile? My approach? My attitude?

So I began asking the women I have spoken with what they liked and didn't like about my profile... I figured I was on track there... so it might be something else. Which is the question I am asking.

I look through the profiles to find potential matches... I would guess most subs on the sites do the same... but do they actually go through the process of making first contact? Or is it because they receive so many messages, they don't need to actively search.. or as a sub do they feel it's out of line to approach first?

MAYBE, I'm just thinking about this too much. More or less, it was a question I thought I would pose to everyone here to see what the response might be.

- Adam