Lily26,

Just noticed that we are both from around the same area. I actually just wanted to comment first on the one question you ask.

3. If your submissive side of your personality is different than your "everyday" self, how do you reconcile the two?"

I am extremely different in my outside projection from my personal relationship preference. I am pretty outgoing in public, and that is similar to my submissive side in the fact that I enjoy being watched. I like being the center of attention, so what better place for me than to be taken care of and loved passionately by my dom.

If anyone were to guess about my sexual proclivities they would most likely think it was me holding the whip, but they would be very wrong. I enjoy the loss of the control, but only in a situation where I can completely trust to be taken care of physically and emotionally.

I have troubles sometimes reconciling my choice of lifestyle when I think of how far women have had to come in order to break free of some of the kitchen cooking, baby making philosophies of the past. I have to remind myself that I am empowered to make the choice I have, and that it doesn't set women back 100 years but actually has made me more in control by even having the ability to choose my level of submission, which I fully give.

So that is a little of my take on that question. Very thought provoking questions, I will have to consider the others a little before giving my 2 cents.

Tae'lyn