Hello, the link is
http://www.bdsmlibrary.com/forums/showthread.php?t=4529
You may also wish to have a look at this thread. It is a tongue in cheek humourous look at new Doms, but has some good points.
http://www.bdsmlibrary.com/forums/showthread.php?t=5363
Welcome to Forums, and I am sure you will find the support you are looking for. If you have any specific questions, please don't be afraid to ask, there are bound to be lots more people lurking who are wondering just the same thing!
cariad