thanks for your advice --I think I will talk to him and see if he wants to spend a weekend or part of a weekend at a hotel (so it would be neutral space), and bring along a bag of toys. We have some dildoes, vibrators, etc., but he hasn't really used them on me except spur of the moment.

One of the things that really excites me is the idea of me being his complete slave --that I would do whatever he wanted me to, no matter how humilitating, that he could choose what I was going to wear (if anything!), that he could have me be naked all day just to look at me, and make me do menial tasks while he watched and punished me when they weren't completed sufficiently. We've taken pictures and stuff like that before, but I would like it more ritualized --more prolonged, I guess. Weird situation, huh, trying to talk someone into dominating and coercing you?