What Does Our submission Do For You??

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Now that I have their perspectives, I am looking to learn about the Dom/me side as well. Not so much what do you get out of being a Dom/me, but what do you get out of our submission?

The simple response to that is, in a word, happiness. To expand on that though, so to better understand why or how. When a woman, or man for that matter submits to me. I feel as if I am being worshiped, or another way of looking at it, would be as if I am put into a leadership position, a position of authority.


A subtle difference, but an important one. Why do you Dom/me, is a whole other topic.

Why do I do it. Well that is linked to the above response. Ultimately however, I enjoy the activity, the mental and physical actions as they occur. I enjoy learning and experiencing new things, and seeing new things.

When we fully submit to you, how does it make you feel? What does it do for you?

This particular question can have such a varied response depending on the submissives opinion of fully submitting. Lets use a few examples, and also remember that in some ways how a submissive submits can be perceived as topping from the bottom, depending on the Dominant.

If a submissive agrees to a flogging, is this submission? Yes, it is, is it fully submitting? It can be if the submissive doesn't enjoy pain, and finds the act of being flogged displeasurable, or perhaps submits to the flogging as a learning experience having never done so. It is not fully submitting however if a flogging is just a warm up to more intense events, the warm up intending to get the submissive on the edge of subspace.

So now that we have evaluated what fully submitting is, we can answer the question of how does it make me feel, and what does it do for me.

I makes me feel powerful, controlling, possessing of something valuable. Being able to contort a submissive into whatever bound position I desire (without breaking her/him in half). To be able to inflict whatever level of pain I desire, to bring the pain level in such a way that the submissive finds it pleasurable is a talent/skill that is not easy to accomplish, and if done wrong will cause you to never play with or see the submissive again. To be able to toy with his/her mind to the effect of making them wonder ponder fear/anticipate whatever activity you might decide to conduct. Is to me ego inflating.

So to be able to do those things, to have that ability to do what I will. For me, it gives me a charge of pride, and fulfillment.

What about when we are pleasing? When we disappoint you?

Two separate questions.

Pleasing: When a submissive is pleasing, as the others stated, it is pleasurable. It brings satisfaction and joy.

Disappointment: This particular feeling can be double edged. Disappointing to whom? Do you think my disappointment will cause you pain? If you do, then I find that pleasurable. Do you think that you disappointing me will cause me to think of you as a failure as a submissive? If you answer yes to the latter question, then you must understand that really this disappointment really doesn't happen unless you as a submissive have disappointed me by being disobedient because you disrespect me as a Person and as a Dominant. Short comings, and failures are not disappointments, they are simply missed goals, or anticipated achievements that were not realized.

When we top from the bottom?

When a submissive tops from the bottom, do they do it subconsciously? If they do, it is just simply annoying, and if I realize what is happening as it happens, then it is my duty/responsibility to correct this. If they do it consciously well then, that falls under disappointment. Ultimately I would probably elect to withhold my Domination or attempted Domination from them in response to this.

What about if you don't have a current sub/slave?

When I was without a submissive, I looked forward to when I would have that opportunity.

What do you get out of it all?

I get to feel appreciated, wanted, and happy.

What brings you back for more?

The memory of what was enjoyable.

Allows you to put up with all the trouble we give you?

The love of the lifestyle, and all the feelings it brings to me.

Yes, submission is a gift. But let's unwrap it, and see what is inside the package.

Submission is a gift, as is Domination, without one there wouldn't be the other. I enjoy the trust that is involved in submission. I enjoy the depraved nature of having someone submit to me. I love how a submissive craves for me to mark their body. For I crave to do it as much as they wish for it.

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[Tojo]

Quite a hard question when you think about it, thanks for asking lily.

When we fully submit to you, how does it make you feel? What does it do for you?

- It gives me a warm glow that I'm loved that much, & is of course a turn on.

What about when we are pleasing? When we disappoint you?

-When you please, it just fills me with love. On the rare occasions you disappoint, I feel....disappointed. I consider whether a punishment is appropriate, & try to remember that you're doing your best. Unless you're not!
In which case a punishment may be appropriate.

When we top from the bottom?

-I love it. I've always said lisa is sassy & sexy. I think I probably encourage my girls to be honest & speak their mind. Of course there are limits.....

What about if you don't have a current sub/slave?

- N/A at this stage.

What do you get out of it all? What brings you back for more? Allows you to put up with all the trouble we give you?

- What do I get out of it? My greatest reason for living. I love to care for my girls, whether they're my sub or not. To see someone take charge of their life, to learn to love themself & to tell me how they're feeling is darn nice.

Trouble? Oh yeah!

That's what fascinates me- to be able to come up with a way to have someone do things that I want- whether it's something I feel they need to do, or just what I happen to want is a challenge sometimes.

When you get right down to it, to make someone happy is the quickest short cut to your own happiness.

Tojo