Quote Originally Posted by TomOfSweden View Post
I would definitely advise a inexperienced sub to avoid an inexperienced Dom. It's not really my place to give advice for an experienced sub, and I doubt she'll need it. I'll just leave it at that. I think that the major problem is that inexperienced Doms generally lie about it, and inexperienced subs haven't learned how to smell them out yet.
And my experience was almost entirely with a totally inexperienced Dom while I was a totally inexperienced sub. And was for the most part pretty damn fantastic. this wasn't seeking out a Dom though, it was starting to do BDSM with the guy I was dating. And we did have the advantage of knowing eachother inside and out... we were also totally inexperienced with everything from kissing up when we started dating. So we may not have known what we were doing, but he knew my reactions inside and out. I would be hesitant with a Dom who was inexperienced in BDSM and with me, but it's far from a deal-breaker.

There's a big difference between an inexperienced Dom and a lying Dom.

As for my list, I don't think I'll say anything more than I need to feel a connection. I need to enjoy spending time with him and he has to make me want to submit.
There are lots of other good qualities, but it'd be terribly hypocritical of me to insist that a Dom needed to be a superb communicator, 100% honest, since I'm absolutely appalling at it myself...
If we feel that connection we'll figure out the other stuff.