Just because a person has driven a car for years and HAS EXPERIENCE doesn't make him or her a good driver. I think the willingness to keep learning is more important. Learning from the sub that you're with, that you've been with, and talking about things before and AFTER, but then that's just me and I know that I'm inexperienced as a DOM. The last thing that I'd ever want to do is to REALLY hurt my sub. Pain is fine as long as it's erotic, but pain for pain's sake doesn't cut it!