why would anyone advice you against IRC its beyond me. Granted it is not user friendly, but once you played with it a bit, you will be fine.

Trillian works fine too.

Which ever one you choose you will usually be able to choose an IRC server from the provided list or just type it in as:

irc.bdsm-net.com

the port you want is:

6667

it usually wants you to give a nick name, alternate name and user name – put what ever you want – it will pick up the first one if it is not registered, second if it is.

Once you get there you will want to type:

/join #BDSMlibrary

ta-da!