We now officially have progress. /server irc.bdsm-net.com:6667 got me conected, but it's like when I connected through the front door. I'm in, but I can't do anything. I tried /join#BDSMlibrary and got "unknown command"

What do I try next?

(edit) Right. That was the command redEva gave me. The one you gave me (/join #bdsmlibrary) worked. Sorry