Yep, I can really understand where you are coming from. I keep my two lives very separate, well, except that my sub is also my best friend, accepted by all my in-laws, as 'such a nice woman'. Ha! If they only knew she was such a 'bad girl' I'm sure their vanilla minds would fracture into a thousand pieces, and we'd both be left out in the cold.
I have no family left of my own, but if they are 'looking down on me from above', I know that they understand why I do what I do. They sure wouldn't have when they were alive!

I didn't realize how small a town you were in; I grew up in a place like that, and I am very glad not to be there anymore. However, I didn't start on my second life until about 8 years back; I was such a meek-and-mild mouse. Now I'm having the time of my life. Of course, it helps that The Spankee and I are very similar in appearance; when we travel together, people assume we are sisters. Makes it so much easier to share a room! Since she is older than me, and about 6 - 7" taller than me, everyone assumes she is the 'older sister', and they all talk to her. It amuses me no end to know how wrong they are! If she seems to be helping to re-inforce that notion, I get the privilege of 'tanning her backside' in return. Unlike you, she is a bit of a painslut. Did I say 'a bit'? I still haven't reached her limits, but I'm in no rush to get there. She'll wait.

I see now that you have no issue with humiliation at all. I understand you not wanting to hurt? harm? your family with your chosen lifestyle; it is a moral situation that you have taken a stand on. Congratulations ( I'm not into wimpy subs, just obedient ones) .