Hi & welcome moptop- darned if I know what you should do re your own relationship. You have to work that out for yourself!

I would suggest that you read up about D/s in general- the whole Dom/sub thing, it sounds as if you're not clear in your own mind how it all works.

Of course I could be wrong...

Check out this site if you haven't seen it- www.submissiveloving.com

To me it's more important to work out how you feel yourself, before you worry too much about who does what in your own relationship.

If I had to give an opinion to anyone re a D/s relationship of any sort- I'd say better to go nice & slow than too fast. You might miss out on something if you rush it!

Let us know how you go now please?

Tojo